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The Brood: 40-something mothers find support among moms their own age

Therapist Elaine Barrington (top right) leads the
Therapist Elaine Barrington (top right) leads the "Moms 40+" discussion group for first-time moms over 40.
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Last week, the CDC's National Center for Health Statistics released a new report that shows American women are waiting ever longer to have their first child.

Over the last fifteen years, the mean age of first-time mothers has increased by nearly a year and a half. That may not sound like much, but over time that can have big ramifications for our population and the relationships moms have with their kids. 

One of the biggest spikes in ages happened in California, which may come as no surprise. Lots of women here focus on career in their younger years and put off having a family until they are in their 40s. 

One such group of older moms have been meeting up once an month in Santa Monica for almost six years now.

It all got started with an idea from Amy Kurland, now a mother of three, who became a mom for the first time at the age of 42.

"I realized that I wanted to meet other moms and that I wanted to meet other moms that were my age," Kurland says. "And I noticed that there wasn't anything around like that."

Kurland brought her idea to therapist Elaine Barrington, a 40-something mom herself, who got the "Moms 40 Plus" discussion group off the ground and has been leading the meetings ever since.

Barrington says that older moms are often facing issues that younger parents just haven't come across yet— like caring for an aging parent while also raising young children.

"First time moms over 40 have oftentimes had an interesting road to motherhood," Barrington adds. "They've often had full, complete careers prior to becoming a parent... and they're either taking a complete detour or trying to figure out how to add this new role and identity into their existing life."

To hear the full interview with Elaine Barrington and Amy Kurland, click the link above.