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'Secrets and Lies': Why sometimes it's better not to know the truth

Author Jane Isay.
Author Jane Isay.
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In the world of secrets, there are those who keep them and those who find them out. Neither is an ideal position to be in, as author Jane Isay learned first-hand.

After 15 years of marriage, her husband revealed a big secret: that he was gay. Rather than allowing that to dissolve their marriage, Jane kept her husband's secret. For nearly 10 years they hid the truth from friends, family, even their two teenage sons.

Jane Isay writes about this decision in her new book "Secrets and Lies: Surviving the Truths that Change our Lives."  We spoke with her recently and asked why she made the decision to stay married to her gay husband.